I recently came across this list after a friend posted it to Facebook. Great tips here.
Sexual Assault Prevention Tips Guaranteed to Work!
1. Don’t put drugs in people’s drinks in order to control their behavior.
2. When you see someone walking by themselves, leave them alone!
3. If you pull over to help someone with car problems, remember not to assault them!
4. NEVER open an unlocked door or window uninvited.
5. If you are in an elevator and someone else gets in, DON’T ASSAULT THEM!
6. Remember, people go to laundry to do their laundry, do not attempt to molest someone who is alone in a laundry room.
7. USE THE BUDDY SYSTEM! If you are not able to stop yourself from assaulting people, ask a friend to stay with you while you are in public.
8. Always be honest with people! Don’t pretend to be a caring friend in order to gain the trust of someone you want to assault. Consider telling them you plan to assault them. If you don’t communicate your intentions, the other person may take that as a sign that you do not plan to rape them.
9. Don’t forget: you can’t have sex with someone unless they are awake!
10. Carry a whistle! If you are worried you might assault someone “on accident” you can hand it to the person you are with, so they can blow it if you do.
And, ALWAYS REMEMBER: if you didn’t ask permission and then respect the answer the first time, you are committing a crime- no matter how “into it” others appear to be.
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Rape is constructed as a "woman's problem" and are told that they are able to prevent rape by taking certain precautions or acting or dressing a certain way. The truth is, women are more likely to be raped or sexually assaulted by someone they know, someone they trust. It is not a problem we can fix by telling women how to avoid it, because it is not just a "woman's problem". To sum it up, I love this list.
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Another list I love is Denim Day's list of reasons people excuse rape (and excuse not reporting it). You can find the list here.
An interesting snippet: See a pattern emerging here? No, me neither. We excuse rape if she's a "bad girl." We excuse rape if she's a "good wife." We excuse rape if her clothes are too difficult to remove. We excuse rape if her clothes are too easy to remove. We excuse rape if he's a man. We excuse rape if the victim is serving time. We excuse rape if the victim is serving our country. In short, we excuse rape. And Denim Day's 12 excuses are hardly an exhaustive list: Off the top of my head, I'd also add "She was transgender" and "We must protect the reputation of the Catholic Church." I imagine a list of all the sexual assault scenarios that are never discounted, disbelieved, or brushed under the rug would be much, much shorter.
Again, ssoooo true. I think I'd be interesting in bringing Denim day to my campus next year, I will have to ponder this. The fact that other people are taking these initiatives at least gives me hope after the situation concerning a Texas cheerleader.
Ps: Yes, my stumbleupon keeps bringing up articles about rape and society's horrible way of addressing it. I think it's trying to make me depressed now, because it used to give me cute pictures of baby elephants.
*Edit*
Another list I love is Denim Day's list of reasons people excuse rape (and excuse not reporting it). You can find the list here.
An interesting snippet: See a pattern emerging here? No, me neither. We excuse rape if she's a "bad girl." We excuse rape if she's a "good wife." We excuse rape if her clothes are too difficult to remove. We excuse rape if her clothes are too easy to remove. We excuse rape if he's a man. We excuse rape if the victim is serving time. We excuse rape if the victim is serving our country. In short, we excuse rape. And Denim Day's 12 excuses are hardly an exhaustive list: Off the top of my head, I'd also add "She was transgender" and "We must protect the reputation of the Catholic Church." I imagine a list of all the sexual assault scenarios that are never discounted, disbelieved, or brushed under the rug would be much, much shorter.
Again, ssoooo true. I think I'd be interesting in bringing Denim day to my campus next year, I will have to ponder this. The fact that other people are taking these initiatives at least gives me hope after the situation concerning a Texas cheerleader.
Ps: Yes, my stumbleupon keeps bringing up articles about rape and society's horrible way of addressing it. I think it's trying to make me depressed now, because it used to give me cute pictures of baby elephants.
I want there to be a Like button, so I can Like it.
ReplyDeleteLol, I'll work on that.
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